Fixing a Broken Heart

Breakups are painful and when they happen. Recovery seems to be light years away. Here are steps you can take to put yourself on the road to healing.

• Let it all out. Go on and cry, says relationship expert and author of The Wisdom of a Broken Heart, Susan Piver
• Make friends with your sadness and let it teach you instead of fighting against it. Swearing off all future relationships will not benefit you in the long run
• Acknowledge your negative thoughts but do not draw conclusions from them. Allow yourself to feel the despair but do not tell yourself that it means you will never love again or that nobody will ever love you
• Listen to your favourite music to lift your spirits
• Be kind to your ex. It may sound impossible but you are not asked to forgive him or forget what he did to hurt you. All you have to do is wish yourself well and do the same for him
• Write a story about your relationship from a third-person point of view – you will gain a valuable perspective and you might incidentally identify what you don’t miss about it
• Do not try to reason out why the relationship failed. Instead, think of ways of preventing it in the future
• So you lost love. Instead of desperately looking for new love, give love to others

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars

Khalil Gibran